Age Does Not Make Us Grown

Have you ever met someone who is currently still living with their childhood demons as an adult? Maybe it’s your mom or dad. A close friend. Or even YOU.

You continue to seek validation when you make major changes or decisions in your life. Because you feel you aren’t good enough to follow your own lead for whatever reason.

And that’s okay. Yeah. I said it’s okay. However, remaining that way isn’t my dear.

In order to become comfortable on your path, you must make stops along the way to help/better yourself. Go get therapy. Talk it out with someone. Put effort into changing how you see yourself daily. Trust in your soul.

Before we set out to accomplish anything in this life, we have to be able to face our true self and we cannot do that if we are allowing past demons to block us from loving ourselves to the full capacity we deserved to be loved.

So my dear, my New Year’s wish is for you to always fully embrace you because you may not have anyone else but you will always have YOU.

I’m in a space on my path where I’m solely interested in surrounding myself with people who want to journey with me. I don’t need to chase anyone. I have nothing to prove and no need to posture myself as good enough because I AM good enough. I find partnership in any form simply fascinating […]

Reclaiming Your Voice In Your Relationship

I believe there are moments in each relationship, when we aren’t as vocal with our concerns. It can be a problem with communication, or just not knowing how to bring certain subjects to surface, within the relationship.

This doesn’t just pertain to romantic relationships, but any relationship that work towards being interdependent, and supply a sense of support. In dealing with my own personal experience with “losing” my voice in my relationships, I feel this is especially true in codependent relationships. I would often find myself avoiding any “unpleasant” conversation, or diverting from world issues, just to keep the “bliss” in my relationship. Self-doubt played a big part.

When we doubt ourselves it shows in how we voice, or don’t voice our concerns. We may even behave in indecisive ways, and give off the impression we cannot make our own decisions. I can feel like we’re giving up our power in this way, relying to heavily on others opinions, whether we truly agree or not. It’s important to take time to sit with your feelings, and understand what you truly need from yourself, and your relationships. Trusting in your own decisions builds confidence, and helps you assert yourself, “stand in your ‘No’, and stand up for your ‘Yes’ “ (Iyanla Vanzant).

It may be necessary to set a time to have certain discussions, and write down important points, as to not stray off topic. When we feel we are not being heard, we may be defensive when we finally do express our feelings. Share in a comfortable environment, where both you and your partner can discuss, and resolve concerns without pointing fingers. Setting boundaries in our relationships is crucial, if our desire is to have a healthy relationship with good communication. We need to get into the habit of practicing more communication where it’s lacking, and trusting that our partners (family and friends) are open to our needs, and want to work out any challenges that may be present.

celebratingamazingwomen: Zaib-un-Nissa Hamidullah (1921- 2000) was a writer and journalist, and a pioneer of feminism in her native country of Pakistan. She was the first female columnist, editor, and political commentator in the nation. She began writing poetry from an early age, and later established herself in the field of journalism; her regular newspaper column, ‘Thru […]

I may not be where I want to be in my womanhood, but I come to accept, I am a woman. I’m responsible for my wellbeing, with or without approval. Knowing that I’m constantly changing, growing into my vision. Acknowledging my power, and being able to say ‘you will respect me, and if you don’t, […]

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